No offense meant girls, but I’m serious with the question. Disclaimer though, I did not generalize girls as a whole in this post. I just said ‘some’ not all. Technically, I’m not generalizing. 🙂
Girls, don’t get me wrong ok? I have lots of girl friends but I can’t seem to find the right answer since many of them I believe, are guilty of this.
Also, I’m not being gender-biased ok? Biologically, I’m a male. But technically, I’m in the middle… if you know what I mean. *wink* I know men are also insecure, it’s just that insecurities among women are more vulgar and obvious.
The following stories are three of my personal encounters with girls who can’t seem to appreciate the beauty of others.
1. Jeepney girls
I was in a jeepney with a couple of passengers when I noticed two girls were murmuring something to each other. Keen observer that I am, I tried to ‘get’ what they were talking about. I noticed that one of the girls, who is morena, kept looking at the girl adjacent to me. She kept staring at her as if something’s wrong. The other girl (quite chubby) told her “Halata gud kaayo ka teh“, and they started talking to each other again in a low voice. Curious, I looked at the girl beside me. Chinita, tisay, bit skinny, wearing shorts and a tank top. After a couple of minutes, the girl next to me said ‘para‘ and went down the jeep. In an instant, one of the girls infront of me said.. “Dili man siya gwapa oi. Puti lang.” And as expected, her friend snapped “Mao jud. Di siya gwapa oi.”
2. Department store cashier
I was lining up at a cashier in the department store of SM Davao the other week when a gorgeous and slim teenage girl wearing basic jeans and simple top passed by our line. This girl has a fair complexion and she has long straight hair. I noticed that the cashier in front of me gave the teenage girl a smirk and sarcastic look on her face as if staring at the innocent girl is part of her job description.
3. My friend
I have a friend in Ateneo (name withheld) who is a famous student in school. Average height, straight and long black hair, tsinita and has radiant white complexion. She is one person who never fails to get the attention of the boys in school — a headturner, that is.
I remember when we were walking past the Office of the President to go to the cafeteria, a bunch of ladies stared at her like there’s no tomorrow. Two of the girls even gave my friend a “head-to-foot” look for a couple of seconds. My friend, who is used to people looking at her like that, ignored them. I was about to ask my friend if she saw them, I heard one of the girls say, “Bakit maraming boys dito sa school nagkakagusto sa kanya? Hindi gud siya maganda.”
The stories above are just three of the many ( read: many) encounters I’ve had with various types of girls. The good ones often compliment by saying “Hala girl. Look at her oh. She’s pretty noh?“. But most often than not, most girls give out sarcastic remarks which are uncalled for.
My guess. LOL
I tried to give my own question a shot, and my guess is that it’s because of our society. In the Philippines, ‘morena’ type of skin is beautiful. But fair to white complexion is considered more attractive by men. I think it’s because of what many Filipinos in our society think. For example, Philippine Tinseltown (showbiz world) is an industry where face value and complexion really matter. Anne Curtis, Cristine Reyes, Bea Alonzo, etc.. What do these celebs have in common? You and I both know the answer.
Also, many watch the Tyra Banks-produced show, America’s Next Top Model showcasing models with skinny figure and averaging 6-foot tall. Because of this I believe, many mark the models and celebrities as ‘perfect images of beauty’ and those that deviate from the usual ‘image’ are ‘not beautiful’ or ugly.. which is not necessarily correct.
You might ask me:
“Me answer ka man pala, Pat. Why dyou still have to blog about this question?”
It’s because I’m not confident with my answer. And I think the most fit people to answer this question are the ‘girls’. And as of last check, I’m not a girl. 😀
I don’t intend to lambast the girls I encountered and those who are guilty of doing the same, okay? We’ll consider that free speech for the sake of this argument.
Let’s make this post a bit interesting by sharing your answers. I’m just really curious what other girls have to say about this. But this is not limited to girls, okay? Boys and girls-at-heart can also answer. 😀
I’d really want to hear from you. 🙂