How to say “No, you can’t take my reserved seat” in the plane

Okay, I think someone has to say it. So you boarded the aircraft, said hi to the lovely cabin crew, looked for your designated seat, then voila: someone has already taken your seat.. with eyes closed, pretending to be asleep or busy with their phones. When you tell them it’s your seat, you’d be lucky enough if they take their assigned seats without so much fuss. But most of the time, it is intentional and they ask if you can swap seats with them. Yes, it happened to me countless times before in my solo travels, and I’m pretty sure to you as well. Some are kind enough to switch seats to the delight of the one asking; others decline, to the dismay of the other passenger. But if the passenger gets irate for being declined to take your seat (yes, they exist!), how do you deal with them? Do we heed to their request?

On my July 10 Cebu Pacific Hong Kong-Manila flight, I was travelling with my sister who is very sensitive with aircraft motion. We asked the airline crew at the check-in counter to reserve the aisle seat so my sister can conveniently go to the toilet should the need arises. At the plane, a fellow Filipino has taken her seat, so I asked politely that they switch seats with my sister. The basic bitch with a PHP199-look rebonded hair murmured: “Ano ba yan, para sa upuan lang“, with matching eye roll. I usually do not want to be involved in any trouble when I’m with my family/friends, so I let this one pass.

On my May 12 Saudi Arabian Airlines Riyadh, KSA-Manila flight, I purposely reserved the window seat for one reason: it’s a nine-hour long flight and so I have to be at my most comfortable seat so I can sleep during the long flight. The woman beside me asked if she could swap seats. I politely declined saying I’m not comfortable being stuck in the middle for long haul flights. The girl responded: “Same here. I’m not comfortable here. Can we swap, please?”, to which I replied: “Really no, sorry.” And I slept.


I have been to many trips before, both foreign and domestic, and had countless encounters with passengers asking (aka: begging) me or other passengers to switch seats. At times, I heed to their request; most of the time, I do not. When someone asks to swap seats, I ask why. Unless it’s a life and death situation for the passenger asking/begging for my seat.. it’s a big fat NO, we are not obliged to grant their request. Unless, it’s the airline personnel who asks you to do so for security concerns, but that’s another story altogether. Continue Reading

Why I solo traveled Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand – and why you should too!

They say that once the travel bug catches you, it never really goes away. Days after I came home from my eight-day solo travel to Phuket, Bangkok and Pattaya in Thailand last year, I have been itching to explore more destinations. I guess Michael Palin was right all along when he said “Once the travel bug bites, there is no known antidote and I know that I shall be happily infected until the end of my life.” Let me present to you: #RoadToIndochina: A Filipino Solo Backpacking Travel Series.


No, this isn’t my backpack. I just borrowed it from fellow Filipino solo traveler Arenn cos it’s really lovely!

A week after being back in the country from my tri-country, five-city and twelve-day solo travel escapade across Hanoi, Halong, Saigon, Phnom Penh and Bangkok, my Facebook inbox is still bombarded with lotssss of questions regarding my trip. From the usual “How did you do it?”, “How much did you spend?”, “What places did you visit?” to “Were you soul-searching.. healing a broken heart.. finding love in a hopeless place? “. I will try to answer each of these questions in a separate post. For today, I would like to address the most asked question so far: “Why did you do it.. why did you travel solo on your birthday?” and my answer has always been : “Because.. why not!”

Last year, in my “#PatrikAt25: Lessons from eight-day solo travel birthday escapade in Thailand” blog post, I highlighted several lessons I learned from that trip: solo traveling is liberating because it allows you to do anything that you want to do, you are the complete master of your trip, it makes us realize that there is so much to see in the world, it makes us pause and contemplate about our life (yes, life!) 🙂

So why did I do it? Why did I solo travel Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand? There’s so much to experience in this world and I couldn’t emphasis this any better today. There are so many awesome people to meet, so many delicious local food to taste, so many amazing majestic temples and museums to visit, so many inspiring stories to hear, so many places to discover and explore, so many foreign languages to learn and speak, so many cultures to immerse yourself into.. the list could go on and on. And as a young professional in his mid-twenties (I feel awful saying that!), I see this time of my life as one of the most critical point for growth, learning and personal development.


On my first day in Hanoi, I played volleyball with a group I found on Facebook. I met Kirby, Andrew, Fiammi, Marcus among others (they might hate me for forgetting the other players’ names!), I met the super friendly, hospitable and lovely people behind my hostel See You at Lily’s: Van, Trong, Duong, Duc Hoang. I had dinner and few drinks with my fellow solo traveler roommates Khaled Mohamed from Egypt and we accompanied our Spanish roommate Toto Naca in the bar cos he has been itching to dance salsa with local Vietnamese girls. I went to Halong Bay with my new found Chicago-based Filipino friend Kiana, who happens to be a Bisaya as well. During our day tour, we met another solo traveler Mickey Han from South Korea who shared a lot of fascinating stories about North Korea’s President Kim Jong Un.


On my birthday, I went to the Harry Potter-themed coffee shop, Always, with my two other French roommates. And while I was packing my stuff on my last night in Hanoi, I had a super inspiring conversation with another solo traveler Jacob, who has been traveling the world non-stop for eighteen months now and he does not intend to stop soon. After sharing all his wonderful stories, the beauty and exciting challenges of long-term solo traveling for about an hour (at three am at that!), I have never been so determined to also pursue the same path before I reach the age of 30. These are just some of the many awesome people I met on my four-day stay in Hanoi. I will expound this list on a separate blog post soon. 😀


I live curious, set goals and turn them into experiences. Echoing National Geographic Channel’s campaign to Live Curious, I did this trip for a lot of curious reasons. I traveled to Vietnam because I wanted to see for myself the majestic Hoan Kiem Lake (Lake of the Returned Sword) in Hanoi, I wanted to taste how delicious the popular Vietnamese egg coffee is and to know why food blogger Erwan Heusaff was going gaga over Vietnam’s staple food pho and bahn mi on his “Overnight in Hanoi” Youtube video. I also wanted to know if I can cross alive the busy streets of Vietnam, known for its notorious terrible motor traffic, I wanted to cruise around UNESCO World Heritage Site Halong Bay or Bay of the Descending Dragon, I also wanted to experience for myself the Cu Chi Tunnels used by the Vietnamese during their struggle in the mid-70s against the Americans.  I went to Cambodia because I heard Royal Palace is at par with Bangkok’s Grand Palace. You see, these are all goals I set last year which came to reality and finally experienced this year.. experiences, which I am very much willing to share to all my enthusiastic and curious family, friends and readers.


My heart, mind and body are unanimous in seeking out for adventure. I got sick and tired of routine and predictability. When I was on my third day in Hanoi, I opened up Facebook and Twitter and read a few rant posts. One friend went shopping for expensive stuff in Greenbelt ‘to keep her moving’ for the busy week ahead, another one was ranting that she has not taken lunch yet because she was super busy at work, a college friend of mine took the day off after doctor advised him due to chronic stress. All these were happening while I was happily roaming around the lovely Old Quarter in Hanoi. Right there and then, I know I made the right decision to travel. 🙂img_2971

I needed a break from work. I reached the point where I could no longer productively work on my Excel files for eight hours in a day. I constantly find myself switching between tabs, from Excel to Google Chrome in search for my trip’s itinerary. That’s the time I figured, I really have to go and make this two-week solo adventure happen. While others choose to spend money on food, drinks and shopping, I choose to spend it on plane tickets, booking hostels and experiencing new culture, meeting new people, and learning a foreign language. There’s a whole world out there waiting for us see and explore. And every single day and destination is an adventure in itself.


I have been wanting to get out of my comfort zone, challenge myself and know how far I can go. We are all curated differently. While some people prefer to stay at home and watch Korean or American series all day, I prefer to go out and explore. Sitting at your couch, surfing the net, watching the television make us live a very comfortable but predictable life. On the other hand, I love challenging myself by doing things outside of my comfort zone. Sure it brings us some discomfort and can be pretty daunting, but it’s rewarding because it’s only when we’re uncomfortable that we stretch ourselves, grow and learn. We have our entire lives to be comfortably sitting in the couch, surf the net and watch TV series and bask in the familiarity of it which leads to predictability and yes, for the lack of a better word, boring lives.


Solo traveling across Vietnam, Cambodia and Thailand is something that I’ve always wanted to do, something that I’ve always dreamt of doing and it feels surreal that I actually realized this dream of mine. I’d like to end this post by sharing with you one of my favorite quotes from Mark Twain: “Twenty years from now, you’ll be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do, than the ones you did. Sail away from the safe harbor. Explore, dream and discover.”